When I look back and read some of my previous blogs, I laugh.
There are several that I am yet to publish, but I’m sure will be relevant to someone out there when I do.
It is so obvious that for me my experiences have propelled me into my tomorrow. I have seen my growth by simply realising that I no longer feel the way I did, looking back.
Before I conceived Micah, I went through a period I can only describe as ‘Separation’. This was a time when i found myself alone. Very alone. Yet surrounded by people constantly. I was having arguments with friends, rebelling against my own morals. Incredibly confused.
Historically i have always been someone very principled and having incredibly high expectations for myself and those around me. Anyone that has worked with me, knows. I dont play with anything less than i perceive to be perfect. Which I now know doesn’t exist.
But deep inside, being a perfectionist was exhausting. Exhausting for me and for those around.
Seeing the consequences of this, forced me to look in the mirror.
Why was I, this way?
Where did it stem from?
Did I need to be this way?
What was i gaining?
Was i truly happy?
How can I fix this?
The answers took me on a journey of self discovery. An incredibly hard one. Facing very hard and painful truths about my past – often linked to my childhood, but it helped me stop doing those things that were hurting my spirit. And also to stop bleeding on those who didn’t cut me.
Overthinking and over analysing things were my deepest issue. I would create stories in my mind and deviate from the facts without realising.
This was heightened when I began my IVF cycle before I went onto conceive. It is possible that the hormones likely contributed to this warped reality.
My journey of self improvement initially caused a lot friendship anxiety, I began to dislike myself which led to the opinion that others must dislike me too for the same reasons. LIES.
However, I realised recently upon reflection that :
Some of the qualities we dislike about ourselves are actually perfect and positive in the right environment and under the right conditions.
It is still a journey for me and is likely to be lifelong.
Below I share ‘My top 8 tips’ to help the journey be more productive and positive 😊
My 8 top tips to positively embracing self discovery.
- Accept who you are no matter what. Rediscovering who I was in Christ helped me become less absorbed about my own opinions.
- Indulge in the hobbies you enjoy, especially those that are not directly linked to income.
- Don’t be afraid to face your fears. They lose their power over you when you face them.
- Acknowledge that you have great aspects to your personality which will outweigh the negatives that you perceive.
- Distance yourself from friends that tend to bring out your self doubt more so than others. It is not about them, it is about you.
- Do what ever it takes to talk positively to yourself. It is doable and life changing.
- Write down a list of things that you are proud of before you sleep each night. You can also list the things that are troubling you. It helps to offload your thoughts and start fresh for the next day.
- Embrace those that are in your corner. Seek advice and support from those that know you very well, will be truthful about your positives and things you need to think about working on, and of course that you trust with your emotions.
Lastly….I leave you with this thought.
Every Experience Has Led You Up To This Very Moment. Respect Your Past.
Was Worth The Wait 